We are adopting!
Big news, isn't it! Biggest news since we bought a house ten years ago! I know not everyone knows all this yet, so here is what's been going on...
We decided a couple years ago that we were going to adopt. But the process seemed overwhelming to think about and begin to work on, so we kept putting it off. Through the help of a great friend who did some research for us and pushed us just enough to get us started, we began working with Bethany Christian Services. Bethany has offices around the country and helps with both international and domestic adoptions. We got our first email full of information on Feb.2, 2012.
The process was A LOT of work, a lot of paperwork, a lot of interviews, a lot of money! And it's not over. We got all the paperwork done, clearances approved, first set of payments made, and our home study totally completed the beginning of June. Our local Bethany office has a very long list of waiting families. They actually have two lists- a list of prospective adoptive parents that are actively being shown to potential birth parents and a list of people just waiting to get on that list! We were the very last couple allowed on the list before they stopped allowing new people to even apply. We were seventeenth and last on the list. They told us the wait time to get our baby would be 2-3 years. WOW! That's forever. We aren't young, spring chicks anymore! =)
We got news on Feb.7, 2013 that we had moved to the real list! Our profile will now be considered for matching with birth parents! So we continue waiting. We could be picked quickly, we could wait another year or more. Suddenly finding ourselves on the list is exciting and a bit scary. Are we ready? YES! Are we prepared? Not a bit! We quickly started collecting baby things from friends who had things to share. It's so odd to not have a clue when we will get to welcome a baby into our home. It's hard to prepare. Sometimes we feel a sense of urgency, sometimes we feel like waiting. Many people suggest that baby showers should happen 30 days after receiving our baby because in Pennsylvania a birth mother has 30 days to change her mind. (Don't worry, it doesn't happen all that often because the Bethany counselors really take extra care to help birth mothers make sure they are fully ready and in support of their adoption decision.) Most people have 9 months to get ready and have a date they can look forward to and be ready for their baby to come. We don't. How do you prepare for that?! Your prayers would be much appreciated!
So we wait... we try to get ready... we wait... we wait... we wait.